“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain.” -Ecclesiastes 3:1-5
Ever since she graduated from high school a few years back I knew deep down that this day was coming. But when the moment comes it’s not always as expected. Where we live my oldest didn’t need to “go away for school” so, the thought of her moving out never really crossed my mind. Why would it? So when She started talking about “possibly” moving out this past Autumn it blind sided me.
I just couldn’t wrap my head around my oldest moving out.
Her first opportunity came and went before she had a chance to really think things over and as horrible as this is to say out loud I was happier than a pig in dirt that it fell through. Actually no, I take that back. I don’t feel bad about that at all!
Fast forward to the beginning of December and that same opportunity presented itself again.
This time she jumped at the chance.
A part of me was so excited for her and the other part of me wanted to just sit on her until all this silliness went away. And yes, I realize no 20 year old wants to live at home with mom and dad forever…but a small part of me kinda hoped she did.
Making decisions is a big part of life and this was hers to make so,after her finals were written and Christmas was over she packed up her room, took her hedgehog and moved into a basement suite with two other girls 15 minutes away.
This will forever be know in my world as “the time that my oldest moved out.”
Not exactly what I had envisioned but life never seems to go the way we want it too does it?
I was so focused on her moving out that I forgot to see the bigger picture. Life is about finding balance and enjoying the little things. It’s also about growing and changing while experiencing new things. I wish there was a “pause” button I could press but her life isn’t the only one changing. Our life is changing too…and really this is a good learning opportunity for all of us.