Being a Mom isn’t easy or at least it’s not easy to be a Good Mother.
I have been doing this “mothering thing” for awhile now and if I have learned anything along the way it is this.
Nobody is perfect.
Nobody.
We all wear masks from time to time, to hide what we are really going through.
Supermom does too.
I see her around town from time to time and I am quite certain you have seen her too. Even if the woman just fell out of bed she still looks so put together from head to toe.
She’s got a baby on her hip, one in a stroller, the other behaving perfectly walking along beside her. I have caught myself looking at her with envy and listening to the whispers telling me that I’m not good enough and are doing a horrific job at this mothering stuff.
How does she balance work, kids, dance practice, fencing practice, school, church, home and still look as though all of her sanity is intact?
The truth is my sweet friends, it’s all one big lie.
As women, we love to compare what she has to what we don’t have.
It’s like we are on autopilot unconsciously destroying our self- worth and confidence.
Do your tell your kids that Superman, Spiderman, the Hulk, and Batman are real?
No. Supermom isn’t really either.
She is a lie people use to make us feel less about ourselves and ultimately allows us to be consumed with insecurity. We need to stop comparing ourselves to other moms and recognize Supermom for who she truly is. She is a figment of our own imaginations.
Supermom is just like you and me. Maybe she has learned to balance her time a little better, make her money stretch a little further, organize and cook more efficiently but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t face some of the same struggles or get overwhelmed.
Let’s face it there just isn’t enough time in the day to get it all done.
We need to be more forgiving and understanding that the supermom we are admiring and comparing ourselves to, really doesn’t have super powers after all.
The truth is we don’t have to do it all. The mess will still be there after you play a few rounds of Wii with the kids, put a puzzle together or go out for some ice cream that is what your children will remember. They won’t remember if the sink was filled with dirty dishes or the laundry was piled up spilling onto the floor around the washer.
Trust me I don’t enjoy when my house is messy. Actually I hate it. I hate the way it makes me feel and It’s the reason I’ve been searching for quicker ways to get things cleaned and organized so I have more free time to spend doing what’s important.
Take the time to remember what’s really important and the rest will fall into place.
I think it is safe to assume that we all know the textbook definition of the word Mother.
I believe the truest definition is best seen through the eyes of our own children.
What they see, hear and pick up on within the environment we are providing them.
Perfectly behaved children or not.
It is true that no is perfect. That is why I learned to stop comparing myself to others over the years. 🙂
I agree! And the sooner we Mamas realize this, the sweeter our moments will be with our little ones.
I think we were made to have envy no matter how good we are. It’s hard not to compare but there’s always a part of us that seem to maybe “need” this too?
I try not to compare myself to others. That will just drive you mad.
I try not to as well but sometimes my guard slips and I catch myself slipping.
In my 19 plus years as a mom I have learned that Supermom does not have an absolute definition. Supermom varies person to person and situation to situation. I am a Supermom when I do the best I can and keep my kids alive and happy. while not driving my husband and I too crazy while doing it.
LOL!! I totally agree.. some days I have it ” all together” and all is well with the household.
I sure hope I am not driving my hubby crazy… guess he would tell me if I was or you would think he would.
I am not a mom to human kids but I know it’s the best to cherish the memories and not look back at the ones that bring us down. Great post.
Fur babies are the best babies.. always ready to pour on the love.
I have fond memories of our fur babies and all their goofy antics.
We all do the best we can…and that’s what makes us super. Right now I”m winning major awards for making blueberry muffins. My kids are so easy to please!
Hey..blueberry muffins are important! You rock those muffins girl!
Oh how I wish I could be supermom! But I know it’s not possible. I also try tremendously hard not to compare myself to others because I know I’ll feel worse about myself!
Love your kids and it will all work its way out in the wash.
Thankfully we get a new chance each and every day and supermom does too!
I loved your post. I know it is really hard for Mother’s, so many responsibilities. I loved how you made it seem like we don’t have to be a Super Mom.
I truly believe it! Some days stuff slips and it just gets sidelined till the next day. Im famous for forgetting the laundry in the wash so Instead of going into the dryer I have to turn it back on. Oops!!
I think we are Supermoms when we try our best, which for me, is never perfect. I love my kids and try not to make mistakes. 🙂
Oh yes it is real! We do it all! Wearing many different hats and hardly time for ourselves – we are hero’s for sure!
Exactly!! With four kids I wear a lot of different hats..some days more than one to be totally honest with you.
I push for time for me or I just wouldn’t get it.
I try not to compare myself to others. As long as my kids are happy and well fed and mostly clean I call it a win 😉
ROFLMAO.. mostly clean… love that!!
I think kids today are waaay more mature and have an understanding of how things work sooner than we did. Most statements being with ” I know that ____ isn’t real .. but … I don’t think you have anything to worry about
I totally agree… somedays I just sit stunned wondering how they already know something I didn’t havea chance to teach them!
I love this post! I am guilty of looking at other moms and thinking.. man they have it so together…what is wrong with me? We don’t see the marriage troubles, or the massive amount of debt, or any other issues we all try to hide from each other. We have to remember we are enough.
Exactly!! I had a girlfriend once who hid an 8 month affair from everyone and it wasn’t util it blew up in her face that we even knew that there was a problem.
I agree, there’s no way you can get everything done and do everything right. You have to learn as you go and make improvements along the way.
I normally try to get the most pressing stuff done and whatever else gets missed will get done when it gets done.
Plus I try and get the little people in our house to help too. 4 Year olds can put away their own laundr.
So hard no to compare when we see what we think is a “super mom” It took me years to just let go of the ideal mommy image I had in my head. Thankfully right now my work and kids don’t give me the time or option of worrying about where I’m slacking
When I start dwelling on the negatives motherhood becomes a drag, but when I focus on all of the precious memories I start appreciating it more.
I feel like a Supermom is real – all moms who love, protect, care for and provide for their kids are super moms. Parenthood is hard work and there doesnt have to be perfection.
Great post! No one is perfect, I agree.
Our son is in Cub Scouts and my husband is the pack leader so they do meetings 2x or so a month until June. Our daughter is in Girl Scouts and she went to meetings every other week during the school year. They take a break for the summer. For cub scouts, we’re having a picnic before school starts in August. We stay busy with scouts as well as church activities through the school year. They don’t do sports (yet).
This is great! My kiddos always say I’m supermom, and I’m just doing what I can and hoping it’s right and I’m doing my best!
Even though I’m only a mom to furry ones, I have to say this is a wonderful post. Even without kids I have a hard time getting everything done in a day and don’t see how moms keep it all together. I say enjoy the small moments when you can because they won’t be little forever!
Great post! I totally agree, I think this way too about the women I look at as the “perfect moms.” Lately, I’ve tried relating super mom to myself whenever I have a successful day and am able to get everything crossed off my to-do list, because that’s super to me!
No one is perfect! Although we women put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be so.
ha! Sometimes I wonder, because If I ain’t her than I don’t know who is. But you are right is so important to remember all the important things in life.
I struggle with this. When I “see” supermom I get so discouraged. Why can’t I be like her? But you’re right she’s not perfect either. We all have our strengths and weaknesses!
I love this post. All of it is very true. My cleaners come twice per month and it’s the best medicine – highly recommended for all mothers. 🙂
I totally agree. We don’t have to do it all, and we can’t do it all.
I think we do a lot out of love, and every now and then, get to be superheroes in our kids’ eyes. I love that.
So true and your children will always see you as super mom when your kissing there boo boo’s. Not when you have the house all clean. Thanks so much for sharing.
I try hard not to compare myself, but it’s hard sometimes. I just do my best and hope I am doing something right.