Being a Mom isn’t easy or at least it’s not easy to be a Good Mother.
I have been doing this “mothering thing” for awhile now and if I have learned anything along the way it is this.
Nobody is perfect.
We all wear masks from time to time, to hide what we are really going through.
Supermom does too.
I see her around town from time to time and I am quite certain you have seen her too. Even if the woman just fell out of bed she still looks so put together from head to toe.
She’s got a baby on her hip, one in a stroller, the other behaving perfectly walking along beside her. I have caught myself looking at her with envy and listening to the whispers telling me that I’m not good enough and are doing a horrific job at this mothering stuff.
How does she balance work, kids, dance practice, fencing practice, school, church, home and still look as though all of her sanity is intact?
The truth is my sweet friends, it’s all one big lie.
As women, we love to compare what she has to what we don’t have.
It’s like we are on autopilot unconsciously destroying our self- worth and confidence.
Do your tell your kids that Superman, Spiderman, the Hulk, and Batman are real?
No. Supermom isn’t really either.
She is a lie people use to make us feel less about ourselves and ultimately allows us to be consumed with insecurity. We need to stop comparing ourselves to other moms and recognize Supermom for who she truly is. She is a figment of our own imaginations.
Supermom is just like you and me. Maybe she has learned to balance her time a little better, make her money stretch a little further, organize and cook more efficiently but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t face some of the same struggles or get overwhelmed.
Let’s face it there just isn’t enough time in the day to get it all done.
We need to be more forgiving and understanding that the supermom we are admiring and comparing ourselves to, really doesn’t have super powers after all.
The truth is we don’t have to do it all. The mess will still be there after you play a few rounds of Wii with the kids, put a puzzle together or go out for some ice cream that is what your children will remember. They won’t remember if the sink was filled with dirty dishes or the laundry was piled up spilling onto the floor around the washer.
Trust me I don’t enjoy when my house is messy. Actually I hate it. I hate the way it makes me feel and It’s the reason I’ve been searching for quicker ways to get things cleaned and organized so I have more free time to spend doing what’s important.
Take the time to remember what’s really important and the rest will fall into place.
I think it is safe to assume that we all know the textbook definition of the word Mother.
I believe the truest definition is best seen through the eyes of our own children.
What they see, hear and pick up on within the environment we are providing them.
Perfectly behaved children or not.