I have meant to post for a while, but I have been …detoxing. Yes, detoxing from Facebook. It’s an addiction I had for a while and had no idea how bad it got until it was out of control and I started worrying about people I didn’t even know and fretting over situations that I wasn’t even involved with.
I’m tired of people asking me to buy their stuff or fund their dogs surgery. I’m tired of knowing too much of your intimate personal private life. You know that feed on the right-hand side of the chat bar?
I was watching and up-to-date on all of those.
You know those blogging and help a blogger groups? I can think of 6 I belonged to off the top of my head.
And another 4 buy and sell ones. …but most likely more.
I would spend way too much time reading the forums/groups/pages. I would watch other people post things about their lives and in a cruel addiction that took away the opportunity to live my life. I have four beautiful children. They deserve more from their mother.
We weren’t made to live like this. We were made for real conversation not summarizing our lives in status updates or with 140 characters or less pretending life is nothing but unicorns and roses.
My Facebook unplugged looked a little like this:
1- I pulled the plug and Deleted Facebook off my phone. It’s excessive. You don’t need it. I sure don’t either.My life won’t change if I don’t know the most intimate details of everyone I know. What you had for dinner a week ago is for you to know and lets be honest, you don’t care what I ate either.
2- Log out of Facebook from your computer/tablet/whatever because having to login every time your bored is a pain.
3- Detox. Go through the crazy moment that you realize you had a life before facebook and the world won’t come crashing to a halt if you just don’t log in.
4- Return after a week. Wait it out a whole week. You’ll realize something when you do.
No one missed you.
If they did, they would have emailed, called, texted. Those emails I had? From acquaintances. The notifications? mostly game requests that are just another time sucking vortex.
I cannot believe I wasted hours of my day each and every day for that! I scrolled through my news feed and found myself a mixture of pissed off, bored, and lonely. I had created this fake world with false friends. People who like your comments or status updates, people who tag you occasionally, but ultimately there really isn’t a connection.
I thought I would feel better by shedding “friends” who’s only contact was when they “added me” but it’s so much more than that.
Maybe I should’ve waited two weeks to see how my life would be with my facebook unplugged.
5- Don’t go back on it more than twice a week. You won’t miss anything. Here is the trick for going back on: don’t spend more than 15 min on Facebook each time you return.
Remember: You will never have this day to live again. Your children will never be this age again. Every moment wasted cannot be retrieved. You have one shot at this. This is it.